ABOUT GEORGE HAYMAKER
I understood success professionally —
but not how to be successful at Home.
For years, I operated from many of the same highly reinforced work-performance operating model I now help other men understand and change.
Professionally, this model helped create achievement, progress, responsibility, and external success.
When home with my wife, they also produced
emotional distance
automatic reactions
mental preoccupation
disconnection at Home
that she did not appreciate —
and I did not like them afterwards nor fully understand them at the time.
That experience ultimately led me deep into neuroscience and the study of how the brain predicts and constructs mental and emotional experience from reinforced mental models.
What Changed Everything For Me
What changed my life was understanding the brain is not randomly producing our thoughts, emotions, reactions, and behaviors.
The brain learns, reinforces, and automatically relies on the operating models it uses most often in a particular environment.
Most professionally successful men spend decades strengthening work-performance operating models because those environments consistently reward and reinforce them.
But very few men are ever taught how to intentionally build and reinforce a Home-oriented operating model centered around:
• connection
• calm
• togetherness
• emotional presence
• relational fulfillment
• relationship success
As a result, the brain increasingly defaults back to the more dominant work-performance operating model even inside a Home environment requiring a different operating model.
Once we understand that — many of our reactions, frustrations, emotional disconnection, and relationship struggles that once felt confusing finally begin making sense.
Why I Do This Work
Today, I help professionally successful men understand why
stress emotional distance automatic reactions mental preoccupation and disconnection
can continue happening at Home, even when they genuinely love and care deeply about their families.
Our work together is not about becoming someone different.
It is about understanding how the brain may be relying on highly reinforced work-performance operating patterns in a Home environment requiring a different operating model entirely.
Together, we focus on building and reinforcing a Home-oriented operating model centered around:
• connection
• emotional presence
• calm
• fulfillment
• togetherness
• relationship success
The brain then begins relying on that model more naturally and automatically at Home.
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More closeness, connection, calm, presence, and togetherness at home are still possible.
We just need to build a home-oriented operating model and demonstrate to your brain it’s more valuable in the home environment.
